30 By 30
Lesson I've learned....
Hello beautiful people,
This month I’ll be turning 30 (December 28) and that is something I never saw coming so fast.
My 20’s were truly the defining decade. I dreamed big and made a lot of what I wanted happen, while also making pivots along the way. I like to think of life similar to building a house. My 20’s laid the groundwork – a lot of planning, trying and allowing myself to make mistakes and my 30’s will be for framing – implementing more stability.
30’s just scream better body, more money, better judgement and that excites me!
Here’s a List of 30 Things I Learned By 30:
No one is going to save you. You are in the driver seat of your life and create your destination.
Don’t be afraid to do things alone. Whether that be travel, take yourself on dates, activities etc. You’re doing yourself a disservice when you don’t take action to do things on your own.
If you’re going to doomscrolling make it worth your time and educate yourself.
BREATH. It helps.
Travel. Even if it’s a road trip or a short flight. There’s so much out there in the world to see.
You’re exactly where you need to be. Enjoy the process. Understand you’ll be exactly where you want soon.
Take the risk. Learn to trust yourself and know that you will land on your feet.
What is for you will be yours. The right opportunities. The right connections. If it’s meant for you it’ll find its way to you.
You’ll get that job.
ALWAYS pour in yourself first. You cannot properly show up for others if you aren’t showing up for yourself.
Some of your family members are mentally ill. A harsh truth, but it’s the reality for many of us.
Creating a safe space to have open communication is the key. When you don’t create a space for open conversation you’ll end up avoiding those very conversations that build trust and deepen your relationships.
Learn to read the room. No, you don’t have to show up inauthentically, but learn to understand the culture of the room you’re in.
If it’s not a “Hell yeah,” then it’s a “No.” Something my therapist and I spoke about when I felt like I was stretching myself thin at times. A simple, “no” or “I’m busy” is enough for self-care
Life is a jungle gym not a ladder. Everything in life is not step 1, step 2, step 3. New lanes will present themselves and pivots will be made.
No one has all the answers. You think at a certain point you should have it all figured out, but trust me when I say most people are winging it. Intelligence is from being open to learning.
Ladies, 2 drinks max.
Is he really cute or is he just 6’5” with tattoos? I’ll wait…
Go ahead and cry (na for real). A lot of us don’t give ourselves the time or the opportunity to really feel our feelings. If that means taking off work to lay in bed and be sad for a day then do it (I sure as hell have).
There’s rarely a right or wrong decision. Every decision you make leads you somewhere, but you can’t be afraid to make a decision and course correct along the way.
You can do anything in this life. It may take more planning, strategy and saving, but you can truly do whatever you want in life.
Remove yourself of situations that don’t serve you. You do not want to find yourself wasting time with jobs, friends or men.
Tbh the world doesn’t always revolve around you. Something I learned more recently. People have their own lives and go through things on their own which means they need time to take a break and regroup. The kindest thing you can do is reach out and ask “how are you?”
Remember it’s your parents first time in this world too. They’re doing the best they can with what they were taught.
Sometimes it’s really not that deep, you’re just being dramatic. Another reality check for you Drama Queens. Y’all know the crash out isn’t always worth it the next day.
Life’s too short, go spoil yourself. Mark those milestones and treat yourself. You deserve it.
Everything you do, lead with love.
Take care of your body — you only get one.
When it feels right, lean into it. It’s okay to be vulnerable or feel afraid in certain situations, but if it feels right don’t fight it.
Trust God.
Bonus:
You don’t need a boyfriend, you need a hobby.
Believe in yourself, your ability, your ethics and create the opportunities.
Go with your gut feelings, it’s typically 99% right